Everyday Baby Steps

I read an article online yesterday at MomLogic that really made me mad.  It was about women dating older men and took a very negative stance on the subject.  For those of you who don't know, I'm married to an older man.  My husband is twenty years older than me (he'll tell you it's nineteen and a half!).  So you can imagine I took offense when MomLogic asked their marriage and family therapist "why young beauties hook up with their daddies older men." 

My first instinct was to go off on a rant sprinkled with a litany of profanity, but I'm sure this statement was meant to incite indignation.  I'm not taking the bait, so I've decided to offer a civilized counter to the points given by Dr. Fox.

The first reason given, financial security, is quite laughable in my situation.  My husband makes less money than I made in my previous position.  I certainly didn't marry him for the money!  The article's introduction illustrates the Hollywood trend of May-December romances.  I really don't think Catherine Zeta-Jones married Michael Douglas for the money!  Women today know that they are capable of attaining financial security on their own terms.

Emotional stability is next on the list.  Yes, life experience is bound to lead to a more balanced perspective on life, but we all have our hang-ups, no matter what our age.  I won't go into details, but my hubby definitely has his.  And he's had twenty extra years for those issues to become ingrained!

Maturity.  I'll give MomLogic this one, to an extent.  Often times young guys make you want to scream with their antics, but I know quite a number of "older men" who are quite attached to their "toys", like fantasy football, computer games, TV sports, and motorcycles, to name a few.  Thankfully, my man doesn't indulge in ANY of these!

Nope, I have no Daddy complex.  Maybe others do, but being romantic with one's daddy sure doesn't seem to be what most women are after.  I hate it when I feel my husband treats me like a child and put an end to it before it can even begin!

Finally, the article says that, "men with power are more attractive."  I am aware that subtle power dynamics exist in many relationships, such as counselor/patient, teacher/student, adviser/client; however, it's erroneous to make the assumption that such a dynamic exists simply because one party is older.  We all know what happens when you assume!

So there, MomLogic!  You can kiss my #@&*^ ass!