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Learning to Love Being a Redhead

Jul28

I came across an interesting little article on the Marie Claire website called, "What's So Hot About Redheads?", and, of course, I just had to check it out!  It starts out with a quote from Conan O'Brien who says, about growing up a redhead, “the insecurity and defense mechanisms are downloaded pretty early.” 

That got me to thinking about myself.  I could certainly relate to the statement.  I remember the hell I went through as an adolescent.  Growing up is hard enough without being markedly different.  While I had no physical deformity or handicap of any kind, being practically the only redhead in a very large school made me feel as though I did.  I would definitely attribute some of my insecurities to the teasing I endured as a kid.

Fast foward to today.  I like my hair.  I like most things about myself - except this damned baby belly, but I can even see the benefit to that - just look at what it produced!  The road to self-acceptance was a long one for me.  As a mental health counselor and a college advisor, I've talked to many adolescents about my struggles as a way to help them through their own.  The best advice I could give would be to be patient.  Learning to love yourself takes time, and each person comes to it on their own schedule.

The Marie Claire spotlight on redheads had a slideshow with various female celebrities, outing who was born a redhead and who was not.  Did you know Lucille Ball was not a natural redhead?  I can't believe I didn't know that.  But, of course, two auburn beauties I love, Juliana Moore and Kathy Griffin, are the real thing.  One of the most surprising pics was of Rose McGowan as a redhead; she looked good!  I think she should go red all the time. 

Finally, I enjoyed reading the comments left by others.  I could definitely commiserate with each.  I cheered for those who had come into their own, accepting their unique beauty, and felt for those who still seemed to have issues from their youth.  Being the secure woman I now am, I felt compelled to leave my own comment - something I never would have done in my teens!


posted by Jenni
Mon, 07/28/2008 - 3:22pm

Seriously, if I could have any hair color in the world, it would be yours! I actually tried to keep mine dyed red but it just kept fading and I couldn't afford the upkeep! Natural redheads are LUCKY!


posted by Renee aka Mekhis Mom
Mon, 07/28/2008 - 3:37pm

I think that red hair is beautiful. It never occurred to me that someone would be teased for being a red head. Except in the case of my grandfather. He was a red head and he always dyed his hair, you can imagine how much he stood out in crowd if he didn't. Great post, I am visiting you from MBC.


posted by Mary
Mon, 07/28/2008 - 3:43pm

You're awesome, Jenni! Thanks so much.

Renee, good to see you here. Good to see you. Thanks for stopping by!


posted by nadia
Mon, 07/28/2008 - 5:09pm

Mary, my sister just dyed her hair red! Most Asians are crazy about redheads, hehehe. All I can say is, lucky you Smiling


posted by Mary
Mon, 07/28/2008 - 8:14pm

We all want or like what we don't have, huh? Thanks, Nadia.


posted by thewritegal
Thu, 07/31/2008 - 6:05pm

I am a fellow redhead too! I can totally relate. I HATED it growing up but now I LOVE my red hair! My daughter says all the time she wishes she had red hair. She is a blonde. And the best benefit of all..........my hair stylist says redheads are the LAST to go gray!! Although one probably just sprung up on my head as I typed this.


posted by Alicia
Fri, 08/01/2008 - 12:38am

I love being a redhead! I was born red but then turned blonde as a kid and stayed blonde until my second pregnancy when it started to go red. I dyed it back to blonde and then over the years it just got bleh. I dyed it bright red last fall but like Jenni it just faded like that, and the dye didn't soak in evenly at all on my highlighted hair. I bit the bullet and tried henna this spring and am madly in love with my hair now. I surfed the http://www.hennaforhair.com forums and before and after pics for weeks before getting brave enough (no affiliation!). It's so scary to try it since it's permanent (it NEVER fades) and it's messy and odd but it made it softer and in the sunlight it looks like fire. It smells like old hay going on and looks like goose poop! LOL But I love how vibrant and even it is. My dad was a redhead and I feel like I was born to have this color. Now my 10 year old (blonde) daughter wants to henna her hair and be a redhead too. Smiling


posted by Mary
Fri, 08/01/2008 - 1:13am

Hello, Write Gal! It is kind of fun being a redhead, and I certainly hope your stylist is right! Woo hoo!

Hi, Alicia. Thanks for the henna tip. Sometimes redheads use it to enhance their own color, I've read. I don't think I knew it was permanent - so glad you like it!


posted by They Noticed Me! « Everyday Baby Steps
Fri, 08/01/2008 - 12:27pm

[...] the blogosphere on their site.  And they picked one of mine!  It’s the one about being a redhead.  They featured a bunch of other fun and interesting posts from other bloggers, too.  I feel [...]


posted by myra
Fri, 08/01/2008 - 2:48pm

I say you're lucky to be unique! Red hair is just gorgeous. My niece has the most beautiful head of red hair. It's been a conversation point for her, and while at one time, I think she was self-conscious about it, she has grown to appreciate it. Count yourself lucky to have such a unique attribute! People pay money for that!


posted by Lisa
Fri, 08/01/2008 - 4:11pm

I hear ya on the baby belly. Ugh! But, I love red hair: unique = awesome.

Thanks for adding our site to your list; it's appreciated. I'm not sure if you're Canadian but, if so, enjoy your long weekend.


posted by Mary
Sat, 08/02/2008 - 3:06pm

Thank you, Myra. I guess I am kind of lucky, huh? Thanks.

Hi, Lisa. You're welcome - I love your site, lots of great info.


posted by Amanda
Sat, 08/09/2008 - 6:00pm

First off, i'm only 17...but I look and act really mature for my age Eye-wink

Growing up as the only bright redheaded-freckled girl in my school was so hard.
The boys would constantly tease me! I felt like some weirdo.
But as I grew older my bright red hair turned to an auburnish color, and before I knew it I turned into a bombshell! Don't take what I'm saying as arrogance.
The boys who would tease me now think I'm gorgeous. The girls who I would wish to be in middle school now admire me! Walking down the street shopping will result in older men specifically turning around to smile or wink at me. I've had men also come up to me and say how they've never seen a more gorgeous redhead.
I also know of 2 guys in their 20's who begged me to go on dates with them. (I will eventually...) They claimed "I've always wanted to date a redhead."

I love being a redhead! It makes me so happy Smiling.
We DO get a lot of attention, and I'm sure you're very aware of that.
Thanks for your post.

- Amanda <3


posted by Mary
Sun, 08/10/2008 - 5:48pm

Thank YOU, Amanda, for your comment! I'm so happy you're comfortable with who you are and that you seem to have handled your development in such a mature way. It took me much longer! Good for you. Always be proud of yourself!


posted by Chazz
Thu, 09/11/2008 - 11:03pm

Great article. While girls may find it difficult having red hair at first, I think as they get older they learn to appreciate just how special they truly are.


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